This and that...

A little catch up post of all that has happened in the past 2 months...
Baby boy, Levi came home after 5 days in the NICU. We came home on Monday evening, returned the next morning to find out he was discharged! He had lost a bit of weight at the hospital and continued to lose after we got home, down to 6.6 before climbing. That was a bit scary but God is faithful. We may not be Jewish but we managed to adhere to the 8th day procedure. ;)
He was in newborn diapers for a few weeks...none of the other kids even used them. At 13 weeks old he is still in size 1 disposables although we rarely use those. We may manage to move up to 2s soon since I don't have more 1s left. We are mostly using cloth diapers. My wonderful sis-in-law let me use all her cloth diapers. Such a blessing since the diapers are rather expensive in the beginning. Still trying to get the laundry part figured out but I'm getting there.
On November 19, John's paternal grandmother, Florence Spohr, went Home to be with Jesus. We spent Thanksgiving with his family then celebrated her life the next day. What a blessing to visit with family, just painful under the circumstances. On the way home, Levi decided to smile, at daddy and nana... and lick his chops at me :). Seven weeks old and I got my smile the next morning (I teared up).
We spent the next few weeks watching Levi grow and "wake up" with smiles and coos.
Levi was also honored to play Jesus at our church for a "living nativity" :) So much fun to see all the kids in awe that there was a real baby in the manger. He was 11 weeks old and 10# 10 oz. Still short for his age but look at his mom :)
The next day we got a new family member... Bam (formerly known as Bama, bleck, couldn't keep that one). He is a 10 month old 1/2 Weimeraner and 1/2 mutt with lab and maybe red bone coon hound. He was with a great family that had him well trained so we are VERY blessed. So now are you ready for pics? Here you go...


This is one month old...



And he shall be called... Part 2

So the past few weeks have been a huge blur for me. Let me try to back track and fill in the gaps as best I can. This is Levi James Spohr's birth story. Warning: This post will contain my birth experience, so if you ain't down with hearing the details, and I mean details, you may want to pass on reading this post.
First, the havoc Levi has rendered on this old body... I had gestational diabetes, placenta attached pretty much on my scar tissue from the three previous Cesareans, a huge amount of amniotic fluid, very frequent contractions and was anemic. As far as the diabetes goes, I controlled it well with changing my eating habits, so Levi did not get huge. All of these thing just added to the "advanced maternal age" statistics. We were merriely moving along and waiting for the scheduled arrival of Oct 12. I hurt and waddled, drove the little assistance carts at the grocery store so as to not go into labor during a shopping trip. I had peace about having a cesarean again, so the days flew by...
Soon we were one week away from Oct 12 and the already scheduled surgery. I had my usual ultrasound and ob appointment (I had those every week for months). Since we were one week out, Dr Amy gives me the lists of risks for the next week and for surgery since I had SO much fluid, I had a strong chance of having my water break early. Since my placenta was so low, I had a strong chance of having a prolapsed cord if I did have my water break. Since I had dialated in the past week, this risk was growing by the minute. During surgery, I had a chance of the placenta being attached into the scar tissue and causing major issues, like hysterectomy and major bleeding (boy that helped the fear factor go up about 3000%). I was anemic that made my risks for blood products increase during surgery. Add 4th cesearean and you have a dr that is not happy with the "ifs" and she suggests an earlier delivery. She had rather do surgery with a controlled environment than having a problem over the weekend and being in an emergency situation, so John and I decided to go ahead with an earlier date. Oh and btw, since you have gestational diabetes, your baby may have some breathing issues when he's born.
Fast forward 36 hours and we are having a baby... I have a HUGE, irrational fear of cesareans, I know I have had 3 others but I still freak out when I think about having someone cut, tug, and pull a baby out of me while I am awake. I am very blessed to have a dr who knows this about me and is patient and helpful with making sure I am ... as happy as medicine will allow ... during surgery. I also have a cousin that works in labor and delivery, she was able to make sure she was in the OR with me. That really helped with the mood of the morning. The anesthesiologist was great as well and did his job to keep me happy.
My husband, hero was let into the OR just as things were getting started. He was able to let me listen to my Ipod during the surgery and put one of the bud in my ear so I could hopefully have a distraction... not really but I tried. I was having a hard time breathing while laying on the table but that got better as soon as all that fluid was allowed to travel elsewhere. John was able to stand up and watch a large part of what was going on. That was neat for him since usually he is focused on me. He got to see Levi being removed from his warm cozy hot tub and I got to hear him not.really.cry the first time or two he tried. I didn't think much of it as one of my children wouldn't cry at first. So they get him ready, move him from belly to bed to scale to bed to dad's arms to my face, take picture, then he is gone along with John, in milliseconds. I on the other hand have to endure the next 45 minutes of the surgery alone... fun. I then had about an hour in recovery, with my great cousin "Nurse Kayse" watching carefully. :) As the recovery period ended and I was being wheeled to my room, Kayse mentioned that my little guy was in the NICU.
What?   .... Tears ... I was not prepared for this. I was prepared for my laundry list of issues, but not his one "maybe" issue.
As I arrive at the room John is returning from yet another trip to the NICU to see our hours old son. He had just gotten in to see him and had pictures... Thank you Lord for digital cameras. The rotten part of it all was up until I got to my room, John was frantically trying to get to see Levi. They were having a hard time getting the vent in, so they kept delaying his access to the NICU and Levi. John was not happy. So now I find out that he is on a ventilator and is having breathing issues. John spends much of the next several hours walking back and forth from NICU to my room just to see our sweet boy and bring his momma pics back. While this was a trying time, I am so thankful to the Lord... Levi being in the NICU, probably kept me saner than any of my other maternity stays in the hospital. I was able to rest, recover and at around 8pm that night I was able to hold my sweet boy... and they had removed the vent by then. Again, thank you Lord for my not having to see him with the tube in (in real life). When I did get to hold him, he was alert and had his eyes open. He then looked at me like he knew me, like he had been missing me, like he knew my voice and was interested in hearing it. That was amazing. I know they can hear while in the womb and I know they recognize our voice but the fact that I had been away from him for 12 hours and then his reaction was such an amazing thing. Thank you again Lord.
The next several days were one long week.... I felt like we were there forever. While we could go and look at our son most anytime we wanted too, we were only able to hold him at certain times of the day... 12, 4, and 8 round the clock. Most nights I skipped the late night and early morning times just to sleep. I pumped and got the milk supply going while the baby was on IV. Within 2 days, I was able to start feeding him straight from the factory, but that was limited so that we could make sure he was getting the calories he needed. The outlook for his homecoming looked like it was going to be the same day as me, until the night before the last night... the step down NICU area was cold where he was and he would not hold his temp up... We were heartbroken since we could tell it was cold right there and it really wasn't "his" fault. The nurses/doctors should have had it warmer in there! Gggrrrr. Anyway, they fixed the temp and after mom and dad had to sleep at home alone one night, he was ready to come home the next day. Whew.

On hold...

So, after my post about my family and this new blessing growing in me, my world was put on hold. You see a friend's 19 year old son went missing. It was all I thought about for 2 solid weeks and then some.
The details came in pieces to me and at each turn I hurt. I never asked my friend the "what happened" question, I knew it didn't really matter, what she needed was me on my knees. As I thought about the question, my flesh really wanted to ask for details. Out of curiosity, out of my mystery solving skills acquired from the plethora of tv shows on the matter, or out of compassion... I did not know the source truly so I chose to just help the best I could, on my knees and on FB.
I am realistic about this blog, I know I only have friends and family that read it so you all knew about the situation already. I just realized that I have a couple hundred "friends" that may be able to help so I posted his pic at least once a day on fb. Usually, many times a day and I prayed...
Well the nightmare of unknowns is almost over, the young man's body was found, 18 days after he was last seen. He was only a few miles from his last known location. How exactly he died is being investigated.
Oh my heart broke and the tears flowed. I hurt for the loss of a young man I had known for years. I hurt his mother, my friend, the anguish of identifying her son's body; the pain of his last hours on earth trying to get to her; the pain only she will feel. I hurt for his grandmother, another friend of mine, that buried her husband a year ago, and has had to endure this 18 days of misery. I hurt for his brothers and sister, who have unknown pain they will have to walk through. I hurt for this family as I know so many of them, aunt, cousins, his dad. I hurt and I cry and I mourn and I pray some more.